Today was a particularly rough day. Not with the newborn - but with the toddler. Somehow dealing with all of the new-born issues is a walk in the park compared with dealing with the toddler whose world has completely gone haywire. I remember stressing about everything with Little One when he was just a week old. Should the umbilical chord look like that? Has he been sleeping too long? How in the world was I going to function on sleeping for only three hours at a time? Ha. That's all old hat. Tonight I tried to feed Baby Brother formula - just because I have a splitting headache - and he is in the mode of "I just can't get enough mom". He refused the formula. Oh well. Anyway, I stressed a bunch when it came down to feeding Little One formula. Tonight it was a five second decision.
Little One is having a hard time with all of this change going on around here. All of the sudden every answer to every question is "NO!" and he does very little of what we ask him to do. There seems to be a little of a power struggle going on here. I am frustrated because he is not normally like this, I am running on very little sleep, and recovering from major surgery. My patience is running thin! He's frustrated because this sweet Baby Brother is not going away, and oh, he takes a lot of mom and dad's time. Tonight at bed time I laid down with Little One and he could not stop talking. "What's that?" and "Sing song". Keeping me there and putting off sleep as long as possible. It's like he was drinking in my presence. Okay, I need to change the subject because I am in a pool of hormonal tears....
I seriously wanted to down load every discipline/child raising book that's on my reading list onto my ipod tonight. I now feel like I felt when he was a brand new baby - What do I do? How do I handle this? I so want to do it right, and I so want to be sensitive to what's going on in his mind and heart. But the attitude, the whining, and resistance - it's really not okay.
So, does anyone out there have any suggestions or stories about their oldest and the transition to a new sibling? I'd love to hear what you have to say.